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  • Question 1:

    T
    he term BDSM covers a lot of ground. What’s your kink(s)?

    I have a long list of kinks. Pretty much, the three aspects of the actual terms of BDSM are my main interests.
    I’m very curious about Bondage, and would love to receive some Behavior Modification (B&D). In a perfect world I would be in a D/s relationship, or more like a D/s household. Because I would like to have a Dominant and be a Dominant, and The Boyfriend really only has an interest (if you could call it that), in Dominance. And, who doesn’t love giving and receiving pain? Okay, apparently alot of people, but I’m not one of them! Bring on the pain.

    Though don’t get this idea that I’m a pain slut, because I don’t think I’m anywhere near there yet, though I could see it easily in my future.

  • Question 2:

    How do you identify? How would you explain your role? (Top, bottom, Master, slave, S/switch)

    I identify as a newbie S/switch, simply because I feel like I haven’t even begun to explore BDSM. I still consider myself in the learning phase. And I identify as a S/switch because I haven’t necessarily picked a role.
    Prior to dating The Boyfriend, and having all these kids, I was convinced that I was a total Dominant. Now though, I seem to go straight to submission and almost crave it. I often fantasize about having a collar and receiving punishments, as opposed to giving those things.

  • Question 3:

    Are you involved in your local BDSM community? What about an online BDSM community?

    It depends on how you define involved. I’ve gone to a couple munches, though not as many as I’ve wanted to go to. It’s often very hard with the kids,  no one will watch the kids for me to go to a munch, because they all think it’s a kinky party where we get together and screw like rabbits or something.
    I go as often as I can, and I wish I could go so much more often. I wish that I could not only be involved in this community, but also Edmonton and Calgary’s communities too. Alas, it must wait and I must be patient.

    I am a member of various online communities, including alt.com and collarme, but I mostly prefer to stick with FetLife, which I find to be less about trolling and more about learning, which we all know is something I absolutely love!!

  • Question 4:

    How did you first learn about BDSM? Does most of your knowledge come from a person or information online? How many years experience do you have?

    I think my first real introduction to BDSM was this show on Showcase called KINK. I started with the Vancouver KINK and continued on until the Montreal KINK. I’d watch religiously every week and became fascinated with the entire concept.
    I was right around 14 at the time and at 16 began researching as much as I could about BDSM on the web.  Of course, since everything good is restricted to adults, I was mostly introduced deeper into sexuality, which was fine for me.

    I’ve done most of my research online, in my own time, without the assistance of anyone else. I’m desperate for a really good BDSM mentor. One who will teach me everything I think I need to know, one who will let me cry on their shoulder when I’ve had a bad experience. I have alot of issues with meeting mentors though, because I often don’t trust the intentions of those who claim to be mentors.

  • Question 5:

    If you were stranded on an island and could only take three BDSM related toys with you, what would you choose and why?

    I would probably choose to take rope or bondage tape (preferably rope because it lasts longer), most definitely a flogger and probably a hairbrush because it puts the fun in functional 😉

BONUS QUESTION:
What do you want the rest of the world to know about BDSM?

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  • Question 1:

    Would you rather eat berries from between someone’s toes OR eat beans from between someone’s toes?

    Definitely, without a doubt, berries! Firstly, because I despise beans. I can’t even eat food that’s been near beans. But also because the consistency just makes more sense.

  • Question 2:

    Would you rather have sex laying down OR have sex sitting or standing?

    I’m much more of a laying down kind of girl. I can better hide the parts of my body that I don’t like, I feel like I can be more intimate and if I’m making funny faces, they’re easy to hide too.

    I’ve always wanted to enjoy sitting and standing sex, it’s just not my thing. It’s fun sometimes, but most of the time, I’d rather be laying down.

  • Question 3:

    Would you rather be caressed OR grabbed?

    It really depends on my mood and the situation. Most nights, I prefer to be grabbed and “forced”, but sometimes I seriously enjoy being caressed gently and all over!

  • Question 4:

    Would you rather have someone pull your hair OR scratch your back?

    Most definitely pull my hair. I used to really enjoy scratching of any kind pretty much anywhere. But now, I find I’m too sensitive to the scratching. I don’t even really like to do it to other people anymore. But I love to have my hair pulled, especially if I’m giving head!

  • Question 5:

    Would you rather have sex in the wilderness OR in a completely public place?

    Can I choose both? Because I’d love to have sex in the wilderness (with a blanket, of course!) and I’d love to have sex in a very public place, like a baseball game!

BONUS QUESTION:
Would you rather be told your sexy OR smart?

Again, I say to you, can I choose both? I want to be told I’m sexy, cute, smart, amazing, those lovey dovey words. It’s one of those ones where it depends on who I’m talking to. If it’s from The Boyfriend, I want to hear I’m sexy. If it’s from any Tom, Dick or Harry, I want to hear I’m smart!

  • Question 1:

    Have you ever had sex on the beach? Do you want to?

    I’ve never had sex on the beach, and I’m unsure if I want to. When I first started having sex, I know that I wanted to all the time and often fantasized about it. Now that I’m at a more realistic age, I just keep thinking about all the sand and the cold water and sand.

    I’d rather have sex in a nice sanitary pool (preferably my own, clean one).

  • Question 2:
    When having sex outdoors, one must always _______?
    a) Lay down a blanket first
    b) Bring bug spray
    c) Be discreet
    d) Be obnoxiously loud
    What’s your favorite answer?

    This is one of those moments in life where you shake your head and say, “If I knew then, what I know now…” The me now would say (a) lay down a blanket first – again for sanitary reasons. And I’m not even that picky about sanitation… And I would probably also say (c) Be discreet.

    In the past, it didn’t matter where or when or what condition things were in or who might see. It only mattered that it didn’t matter.

  • Question 3:

    If you could have sex in one public place, where would it be and why?

    There are a ton of different places I’d love to have sex, though I’m pretty sure all of them are 100% illegal and I’m also pretty sure that it will always be a fantasy, unless I suddenly start playing the lottery and win.

    This is a hard one to narrow down too, because it would really depend on a variety of different factors. I’d like to have sex in a beautiful gazebo, and at a concert, on a roof (preferably when they’re taking pictures for Google Earth ;)), and I’ve often fantasized about a lingerie store changing room. I think it would be so hot if he just couldn’t contain himself after seeing me in some skimpy outfit and had to take me right then and there. I’d probably be more apt to buy the outfit 😉

  • Question 4:

    On a scale of 1 to 5, how worried are you about getting caught? (5 being really worried and 1 being not worried at all)

    When I was young, the thought hardly ever even crossed my mind. And the only person I was worried about being caught by was my Mom. Today, I’m at at least a 5, maybe more. I’m worried about getting caught for things that aren’t even illegal, imagine how much worse it would be if I was actually doing something illegal. I haven’t had public sex in a really long time, but if I did it today, I’d probably be incredibly nervous and stopping every ten seconds to listen for sounds of authority…

  • Question 5:

    What do you think you would do if you stumbled upon a couple having sex outdoors? Has it ever happened?

    This has never happened to me. I’m not sure how I’d react. I’d probably honestly, walk by and pretend like I hadn’t noticed and then been jealous that they got to live out this fantasy on one hand, and also angered because I didn’t consent to it, and was forced to witness it. I might clear my throat a little as I was passing by. And you bet your ass, I’ll be telling everyone I know!!!

BONUS QUESTION:
Tell us about one of the best outdoor or public sexperiences you’ve ever had or that you would like to have.

One of the best outdoor/public sexperiences I had… Well there’s two that I can remember vividly. One time was with my first boyfriend, and I gave him head, kneeling on two feet of snow. While it was freezing cold, and we were both wet when we were done, it felt really good for him and it was alot of fun for me.

The next time was after a drunken night at the bar. I had just had my first and hadn’t lost my baby fat, but had just gotten these boots that I called my hooker boots. I paired them up with a plaid pencil skirt that I had gotten at a thrift store years before, and a white button up shirt with a black vest over it. I thought I looked incredibly sexy and wore my sexiest pair of underwear, this black and red lacy kind of thong, though it covered more of my ass, but still left my birthmark visible.

After dancing for awhile on the speaker, I noticed my skirt was beginning to rip a little bit up the back slit. Then all of a sudden, it was ripped right up to my ass. Luckily, I was drunk enough that it wasn’t the end of the world. I traveled to the nearest bathroom, and was even more lucky that the bathroom attendant suggested turning the slit to the side, so that only the top of my white stockings were showing. (This may sound very school girly. I’d like to think I was more of the head Mistress at a Prep School like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman and Mona Lisa Smile all at the same time!) Ingenious idea though!

I go and dance on the speaker, thinking I look like hot shit, more drunk out of my skull. This larger woman comes over, and starts screaming in my face that I look disgusting and telling me I’m a fat whore. I say something along the lines of, “You’re just jealous because all the guys are looking at me, and not you.” She turns with disgust, and a second later, I’m darting off to the bathroom bawling my eyes out, not only because I just got called disgusting but because I had said something mean to someone else.

Feeling pretty down and out, I find Alfie and tell him we need to leave. Along the way home, I’m stopping every few seconds complaining about how drunk I am, how sore my feet are, and the fact that I had gotten disgusting. We stumble upon the church, and get this idea in our heads to have sex on the church steps, which is kind of secluded, only at nighttime though. I still think my second was conceived on those steps. I wasn’t quiet, I wasn’t afraid of getting caught, it was crazy hot, and my feet didn’t hurt afterwards!!

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  • Question 1:

    How often do you listen to music during sex? Do you wish you did it more often?

    I don’t often listen to music during sex. I wish I did, because it normally turns out to be better sex. Probably 3 or 4 times a year.

  • Question 2:

    What are 5 songs that you love to have sex to? Why?

    I love to have sex to songs with a great bassline. Dance-y type music is generally my favorite. Anything I can do a deep grind to. Songs that I like include:

    – Ms. New Booty by Bubba Sparxx
    – Drop It Like It’s Hot by Snoop Dogg
    – My Humps by The Black Eyed Peas
    – How Low Can You Go by Ludacris
    – Speakerphone by Kylie Minogue

  • Question 3:

    Have you ever given or received a lap dance from a professional? What about from a non-professional? Which did you prefer or which do you think you would prefer?

    I’ve never received a lap dance (though I’ve begged The Boyfriend for one!), and I’ve given one lap dance after I bought Carmen Electra’s Aerobic Striptease years ago. I probably licked it up hardcore, but it was fun at the time.

    I’d love to give The Boyfriend a lap dance or even just dance with him. I just have so many image issues at the moment, that it’s physically impossible. Sometimes I wish I felt like I looked as sexy as I feel…

  • Question 4:

    Do you find when you listen to music while you have sex, that sex generally tends to follow the rhythm of the music? Do you use that advantageously?

    When I do listen to music during sex, I’m always trying to follow the rhythm. I don’t think the guy ever is, but if I’m on top (which is more likely to happen when a song that I love comes on!), I love to grind my hips and bounce to the beat.

  • Question 5:

    Does having music on make you feel more sexy?

    Without a doubt! Especially if it’s loud, and I can feel the pulsing of the bass between my legs. I feel incredibly sexy and even if I don’t look it, I feel like everyone around me wants me 😉

BONUS QUESTION:
Do you think that you could ever strip professionally?

Back when I first started going clubbing, I would go to the strippers all the time before going out dancing. It was my routine. I would go dancing afterwards and I’d be the one out on the dancefloor doing a stripper routine without ever taking my clothes off. I’ve been told throughout the years that I would make an awesome stripper.

I’ve wanted to strip professionally for awhile now, and even considered going to amateur night a couple times, though chickened out everytime. In theory, it sounds so hot. If I actually got up there, I think I’d just be nervous. But at the same time, who knows. Maybe I’d end up being a crazy good stripper. I think I could probably do it professionally, but I’d need alot of support.

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“That’s Tight”

CherriesThis Week’s Questions

  1. What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?
  2. Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?
  3. If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?
  4. Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?
  5. Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

BONUS QUESTION:
What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

RULES

  • Each week, for Wednesday, you post answers to the five questions that are posted. You may answer all, or only one or two of the questions. You can post in whichever format works for you, be it video, poetry, answers, pictures or audio.
  • Insert the WTMFI Wednesdays image at the top of this post (get instructions here) into your post, linking back to The Rantings of a Tortured Mind – XXX Rated Edition at https://rantingsofatorturedmindxxx.wordpress.com
  • Leave a link to your post with the answered questions in the comments section of Wednesday’s WTMFI post. There is a special page for all the links that are submitted, so be sure to submit your links.
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  • CherriesThis Week’s Answers

    Question 1:
    What are your thoughts on anal sex? Have you ever had it?

    I have had anal sex (Thank you Boyfriend!), and still have varying thoughts on it. Some days, I’m all for it and think it’s sexy, other days I think it’s risky and dangerous and not something I want to participate in. But like I’ve said here before, I have no problems when it comes to finger penetration. It’s just the penis to anus penetration.

    Question 2:
    Do you enjoy watching porn with anal sex?

    When I was younger than I am now, and first started watching porn, the anal scenes would disgust me. I still cringe when they pull someone’s ass cheeks apart and you just see this huge gaping hole. But I’ve come to accept that it’s going to be there.

    The only time I enjoy watching porn with anal sex in it, is when it’s double penetration. I don’t know what it is about watching double penetration, but it turns me on so much and gets me off so fast!

    Question 3:
    If you’ve had anal sex, what was your first time like? If you haven’t had anal sex and want to, what do you hope for your anal sex experience?

    I had attempted to have anal sex many many times before actually successfully having anal sex. And with every boyfriend I had had sex with, we tried anal sex, and every time it would start to hurt too much and I’d tell them to stop.

    A couple months after The Boyfriend and I were together, we gave it a try. I was really nervous and he knew it, and in this calm and smooth voice, he gently talked me through it and was very responsive to my body. At any point that I’d even just flinch, he’d go very easy and tell me I was doing great or that I was such a good girl. He was behind me and we were on our sides, and he’d reach up and stroke my back or my hair, and he was just very gentle and very sweet and I became incredibly relaxed. Moments later he was pulling out cumming, and if I remember correctly so was I.

    It was amazing and it felt so intimate, instead of kind of dirty like before. We’ve only probably done it once or twice since then, but that first time was incredible.

    Question 4:
    Do you own any sex toys for anal penetration? If not, do you want to?

    No I don’t own any, yes I want to. I’ve always wanted to don a strap-on. And I’ve always wanted to use anal beads on someone else. For use on me, only because I know The Boyfriend wants it, we need to get a dildo so he can be fucking me while using the dildo on my ass. I’d like to get The Boyfriend a cute little butt plug, though I don’t know how into that idea he is. But I’d like to get my vaginal and clitoral toys and some BDSM gear out of the way before making anal purchases.

    Question 5:
    Do you always use condoms or do you sometimes allow bareback?

    I’d like to say that I always used condoms, but it’s just not true. I almost always allow bareback. I’m not worried about getting any STD’s from The Boyfriend, so condoms almost never cross my mind. Lube is an absolute must though, lots of it!!!

    BONUS QUESTION:
    What are your thoughts on society’s negative views of anal sex?

    The same thoughts I have on society’s negative views of sexuality in general. I think it’s bogus and unnecessary. I hate that we’re a society of sexual beings, whether we like it or not, because that’s our biology, and yet it’s still so taboo to talk about sex, or sell sexual products, or own a sexual business, or write a sexual story. Even though it’s been happening for centuries, guys are still all uncomfortable about the idea of anal penetration, because they’re guys. Like I just think we need to be able to be open and honest and communicative and sexual, because that’s how we were designed. We should be allowed to freely express that!

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    “Have You Ever…”

    CherriesThis Week’s Questions

    1. Have you ever sucked on another person’s toes? Have you ever had your toes sucked on? Which did you prefer? If you haven’t, would you like to?
    2. Have you ever worshiped another person’s feet or had your feet worshiped? If you haven’t, what do you think about it?
    3. Have you ever been made to lick a person’s shoe or boot, or made someone lick your shoe or boot? If you haven’t, would you?
    4. Have you ever spent hours looking at pictures of feet, most likely on the internet?
    5. Have you ever gotten or given a foot job?

    BONUS QUESTION:
    Have you ever taken pictures of your feet and made them visible to the public? Where could we find these pictures?

    RULES

  • Each week, for Wednesday, you post answers to the five questions that are posted. You may answer all, or only one or two of the questions. You can post in whichever format works for you, be it video, poetry, answers, pictures or audio.
  • Insert the WTMFI Wednesdays image at the top of this post (get instructions here) into your post, linking back to The Rantings of a Tortured Mind – XXX Rated Edition at https://rantingsofatorturedmindxxx.wordpress.com
  • Leave a link to your post with the answered questions in the comments section of Wednesday’s WTMFI post. There is a special page for all the links that are submitted, so be sure to submit your links.
  • Have Fun!!!! (more…)