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So, The Boyfriend has gone from only having two days off work, to having four days off work. I am absolutely loving every single moment of it. Not only is he more awake all week, we’ve been sticking to a better routine and he’s around to help out more around the house, but we had sex three times last week. That’s like 2 1/2 times more than we normally have sex in a week!

It was honestly great. The first night, he was trying to be really really gentle, just in case us having sex is the reason I was still bleeding for six months! It felt like my first time all over again to be quite honest. It was awkward, and to me, it felt like both of us were thinking too much. He seemed to be fumbling, as if he’d forgotten where everything was.

Then we took a night off, and then the next night I got to be on top. I love when he loves when I’m on top. He looks at me with such excitement in his eyes. We were still pretty gentle this night, though I was on top, and usually when I’m on top, it tends towards the more gentle. I’m more of a grinder than a bouncer, if you know what I mean 😉

The next night, my favorite night, was the roughest out of all the nights. Still not the roughest we’ve ever had, but good enough for me. I finally, after I don’t even wanna think about how many months, got oral. After giving, since the deepthroating incident. Then we 69’d for a bit, which is always fun.

Then he pulled me down to the end of the bed, and for the next hour or so, we just switched the position of my legs and stayed with him standing and me laying at the edge of the bed. First my legs were down and around his back, then they were up and around his neck, then they were spread wide apart.

Of course, once they were open wide, it was the perfect opportunity for me to cum. I’ve been going off for weeks now about Kegel Exercises, thanks to The 100-Kegel-A-Day-Challenge, so as I begin to orgasm, guess who decides to contract his PC muscle. And guess whose got a strong PC muscle. It felt so incredibly different. I’m used to orgasming and my PC muscle going nuts, not so much used to feeling other people’s PC muscle going nuts.

Since he had stopped himself from cumming so many times, it took him a very long time to get to the point of actually cumming. But when he did, it felt so amazingly incredible. My vag was so tired and weak, and then it was just like Hello! I totally could’ve gone for a second round, but I was so tired by that point, that staying up the 18 minutes for The Boyfriend to come back to life, was not going to happen. No matter how hard I tried.

Sadly, the flogger was only pulled out once. And for such a short period of time that it’s hardly worth mentioning. But I handed The Boyfriend the flogger, and asked him to hit my tits with it. He was very hesitant, “Won’t that hurt?”. I was pretty darn sure that with the flogger we have, it wasn’t going to hurt at all, and I was pretty darn right.

I then explained to him all the spots you can’t hit, and he was still convinced it would hurt. The only part that was painful at all in the entire thing, was just as the falls were lifted, the ends of them would tweek my nipple. But it was way more pleasurable than unstandable.

I hope with him having these four days off, that sex does become a more frequent thing. And eventually, I hope the floggings or spankings become more frequent too. And now that I’m no longer breastfeeding, and he’s got so many days off, I hope we’ll start going to munches again. Because I’m missing it like crazy ;(

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“Put Your Hands

All Over My Body”

CherriesThis Week’s Questions

  1. What is your ideal amount of sex per week? Are you having your ideal amount of sex?
  2. Do you think females can ejaculate? If no, why?
  3. Do you prefer to give or receive? Top or bottom?
  4. What is your favourite sexual position and why?
  5. Are you noisy during sex? Do you moan or talk? Does your partner ever tell you to quiet down?

BONUS QUESTION:
What’s your favourite and least favourite part(s) of your body? What does your partner, if you have one, say is their favourite part of your body? What is your favourite part of your partner’s body, if you have one?

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    Since the start of my interests in BDSM, I’ve always questioned whether or not I would actually enjoy the activities that are included, or if I just liked the concept of them. Did I just like the idea of being flogged, or would I truly enjoy being flogged or flogging someone else? Is it just the idea of being tied up that’s a turn on, or would I really be turned on from it?

    Well, last night, after receiving my flogger and bondage tape that I had ordered online in the mail, I got to experience my first flogging ever. The Boyfriend even let me hit him a couple times 😉

    So, we bought the Angel Hair Flogger – 14″. Prior to using it, and just testing it out on my leg, I was sure The Boyfriend wouldn’t be able to hit hard enough. Thankfully, I was wrong and he was able to get the latex falls to snap and sting. The sound of the flogger was the best part. As he swung through the air, a sharp swooshing noise. Even better was the sound of the hit. It was loud enogh to be hot for us, but not so loud as to wake up the kids!

    I was almost surprised at how much The Boyfriend seemed to be into it. At first, he was more playful than serious about it. Starting upstairs, he would just playfully swing it, barely skimming my ass. Once we got downstairs though, it was almost as if he transformed into the loving, in control Top. It was almost like he had done it before, and had spent hours researching it on the computer.

    He seemed to pick up on every cue, and corrected any mistakes almost as soon as they happened. He started off slow and gradually picked up pace. He would rain down a succession of blows and then it seemed like he knew the second it started to “hurt” for me, where I would feel the need to pull away. But even before I pulled away, he’d stop and rub the area of impact.

    He’d practice whichever swing he went for first in the air, and the sound alone made me incredibly wet. Then he’d bring the falls down upon me, the first couple of times, very lightly, just tickling my skin. By the end, he was hitting hard enough that I was experiencing the same painful pleasure brought on by spanking.

    It is still an incredibly gentle flogger, and I’m very curious to experiment more with it and find out if it’s possible to break skin with it. We didn’t get a chance to use the bondage tape, because we were too into the flogger. So that will probably have to wait until his next days off.

    The sex afterwards was amazing, though that’s not really new for our sex life. Pretty much every time we have sex, it’s amazing. He was trying really hard to be gentle, because he’s worried that rough sex is the reason I’ve been bleeding so long after having Carter (only had maybe 5 days in 4 months where I wasn’t bleeding!).

    For the second time in a row (and it hasn’t ever really happened alot, so it’s super exciting for us both), I got off at his hand. This time was especially hot, because as I came, he came. Don’t ask me why, because I don’t really know the answer, but cumming at the same time always feels much more intimate and passionate and special.

    We spent a couple minutes, wrapped in each others arms, coming down from a blissful experience, recounting all our favourite things about the night. Then came the planning of future sexpeditions, where he’s asked to be taped and has told me to expect my own. I wonder how well the bondage tape will really work?

    I still feel like all of this kinky stuff that we’re doing, is still just kinky stuff. It feels like a precursor to sex and nothing more. While we were upstairs and he was playfully hitting, I kept asking myself, “Am I okay with this? Am I okay with it just being a type of foreplay? This isn’t how I pictured this, am I really okay with it?”, and I decided that I would rather have some kinky foreplay that involves elements of BDSM that I desire, than have no interactions with kink or BDSM. It’s one of those situations where you take what you can get when you can get it,  and for the moment, I am satisfied with that 😉

    I was pretty happy a couple days back, when The XXX Rated Rantings hit a page view of 69, obviously my favourite oral position! And I’m happy to report that WTMFI Wednesdays is gaining popularity and we’ve had over 20 readers for the past two weeks! So now, I’m begging you to all help me get to another milestone, and start participating in WTMFI Wednesdays.

    Leave your comments here, post your links to your sites in the comment section, answer or leave links on the message forum, send your answer to Valerie Rayne. All of the ways to participate are here. Plus you can leave your comments for any of the posts, they are more than welcome!

    So I was clicking around on my FetLife groups today, and I stumbled across this post, which discusses when you should cut your partner out of rope bondage. Reading through it, all these people are commenting on the Dominants responsibility to constantly be checking for signs of distress in the submissive.

    Seanchai comments:

    There’s little more frustrating than a bottom who, trying to respect their top, doesn’t speak up when something is mildly irritating, only for it to become a major “oh god cut the rope NOW” problem once you’ve got twenty or thirty feet of rope around them.

    And I’m just thinking, it sure sounds like submissive’s are almost given excuses to not communicate effectively. Personally, if I were ever in a situation with another person, where they basically hold my life and safety in their hands, I would communicate everything and if they didn’t like it, then they’re not a very good Top for me.

    This whole topic makes me think about sexual communication in general. Why is it that, even though we’ve been having sex since the beginning of time, it’s still one of the hardest things for people to talk about comfortably?

    I’m the type of person whose communicating constantly about sex. It probably gets annoying for everyone else around me. And it’s most important for me during sex. I’ll speak up the second anything doesn’t feel right, and The Boyfriend and I will spend a good half hour after every sex session, recounting the  things we liked and didn’t like.

    What’s more surprising to me, is that, with how good I am at communication and sex, I’m pretty crappy with communication and day-to-day life. I think it’s because life always hurts and is always uncomfortable and awkward. There’s always something about life… I can communicate that pain in my ass, a thousand and one times in a minute, and it’s not going to change the fact that it’s still a pain in my ass.

    There’s no EMT scissors to cut me out of awkward situations, there’s no pulling out when shit gets to deep. All the aftercare in the world isn’t going to change the fact that tomorrow will be (and if it’s not tomorrow, the day will come) another crappy day without the hand of a Top to save you. Sadness…

    Well maybe we can add this to a list of goals then. First, be a responsible and safe submissive. Second, get as good at communicating about day-to-day life as you do about sex. And thirdly, start reading more discussions in the BDSM Mentors Group (which I don’t usually do…).

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    “Would You Rather…”

    CherriesThis Week’s Questions

    1. Would you rather have sex with an incredibly sexy asshole or an average looking sweetheart?
    2. Would you rather watch porn or be in porn?
    3. Would you rather have sex in the kitchen or in the bathroom?
    4. Would you rather have kinky sex or vanilla sex?
    5. Would you rather be on top or bottom?

    BONUS QUESTION:
    Would you rather be extremely intelligent or eternally beautiful?

    RULES

  • Each week, for Wednesday, you post answers to the five questions that are posted. You may answer all, or only one or two of the questions. You can post in whichever format works for you, be it video, poetry, answers, pictures or audio.
  • Insert the WTMFI Wednesdays image at the top of this post (get instructions here) into your post, linking back to The Rantings of a Tortured Mind – XXX Rated Edition at https://rantingsofatorturedmindxxx.wordpress.com
  • Leave a link to your post with the answered questions in the comments section of Wednesday’s WTMFI post. There is a special page for all the links that are submitted, so be sure to submit your links.
  • Have Fun!!!!
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